In Filipino culture, Ate (pronounced ah-teh) means “older sister,” but it’s much more than a family title. Like Kuya, Ate is a term of endearment and honor, used to show respect and warmth toward an older female, whether she’s your actual sister or not. It breaks the ice and softens interactions, acknowledging age and care without stiffness.
The Ates we’ve come to know here have lived up to the name in every way. They’ve become our big sisters, giving advice, sharing their stories, and guiding us through culture, language, and life. Whether they’re translating at Bible study, teaching us guitar chords, or patiently explaining how to say “ano pangalan mo” when what we say is totally not what they just taught us, they carry a calm strength and joy that makes us feel safe and seen.
One afternoon while going door to door, I got to talk with one of the Ates. She shared her testimony, surprisingly similar to my own, and it gave me so much perspective on serving God through the ups and downs. She gave her life to missions in her 20s and has served faithfully ever since. As a single woman, she steps into ministry daily with unwavering joy and strength—an incredible encouragement to me as I seek to do the same.
Another Ate shared how she waited until she was 40 before the Lord brought her a husband, a powerful reminder that God’s timing is always perfect. When he proposed, he promised to do all the laundry. She tells us these days, it’s 50/50, but she says that’s still proof God answers prayers. And honestly, the bar is officially raised.
Some Ates are now wives and mothers, and watching the way they honor God in both their ministry and their marriages has been such a gift. They serve with humility, lead with grace, and support their husbands each day. Their lives are living examples of Proverbs 31—strong, wise, and full of the love of Christ. Whether single or married, they model what it means to serve the Lord with gladness and to trust Him in every season.
These women are bold, faithful, hilarious, and endlessly patient. They’ve welcomed us into their lives and treated us like family from the beginning. They truly embody what it means to be an Ate.
Bicol Media Team